How to Get a Jewish Divorce
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One of the most painful areas in Jewish life is the issue of obtaining a Jewish divorce, or a Get. While divorce has traditionally been discouraged, Jewish law has always permitted a couple to part if there is excessive bitterness between them. It is extremely important for a Jewish couple to obtain a proper Jewish divorce or a Get and not to rely merely on a secular divorce.
Step 1
See a rabbi as soon as you decide to give your wife a divorce. He can recommend a scribe who is knowledgeable in the laws of how to write a proper Jewish divorce document, or a Get.
Step 2
Ensure the sofer is writing the Get purely for you and your wife and is not using paper that can be erased, a form with blanks or any material but parchment. The rabbinical court (group of three rabbis) will also check these details.
Step 3
Confirm the Get is signed by two witnesses after the Get is written by the scribe.
Step 4
Make the statement, "This is your Get, and accept this as your Get. You shall therewith be divorced from me; you are untied free and permitted to any man." The rabbinical court should provide you with the text of this statement, usually said in Hebrew.
Step 5
Watch your now ex-wife take the Get in her hands and walk a few steps back. The Jewish divorce is not official until the wife accepts the Get. This document is often destroyed, and a rabbi draws up an official divorce document.
Step 6
Discuss any details and questions you have before this actual procedure is performed.
Tips & Warnings
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Seek out a rabbi who is already familiar with your situation, based on discussions in the past about your marital problems. This should help the process go more smoothly.
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Do not live in the same house with your wife after you have decided to divorce her. You must live somewhere else until the divorce is final.
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It is essential to obtain a kosher Get or Jewish divorce and not to assume a secular divorce is sufficient. Without a religious Jewish divorce, the woman's children in subsequent marriages will be considered illegitimate.
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